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You've finally found someone online; he or she matches all you tastes and criteria for someone you'd like to know better - now it's time to introduce yourself.

But what exactly do you say? For starters, if you've read the guide to writing effective personals, you probably already know that honesty is one of the keys when presenting yourself to singles.

But whereas personal ads are sort of like online billboards, advertising you, now it is time to actually reach out to a stranger and try to establish a good rapport - preferably right off the bat.

Unfortunately, this is easy to screw up. There will be two situations when you'll be writing to singles: either you will have found a man or woman's personal ad, and intrigued by it you will seek contact, or you will be answering the e-mail of singles who found your own ad and decided they wanted to know you better.

In the latter case, the ice will already be broken for you, so just be yourself and have fun.

If, on the other hand, you are making the first move, keep in mind that online dating is a shy guy's (or gal's) dream come true: you'll appear charming, witty and wonderful - without first date jitters ruining your cool.

We have some excellent pearls of wisdom that you should keep in mind when contacting singles, but first, let's briefly look at exactly how you'll be getting in touch with them.

First off, let you get in touch with other members is how the major dating services make their money. So if you want to make the first move, you'll have to pay for the privilege. Hey, nothing good is ever free.

Also, depending on which dating service you'll use, there will be a different way to get in touch with those other singles. Most use a proprietary e-mail system, while some, like Udate and Kiss also use some form of instant messaging, between singles who are online at the same time. It's the coolest way to do it, because you could actually be "talking" live to someone minutes after you see their profile.