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I am in deep shit... and i need your help. I will keep it brief. at the fitness gym I go to works a young lady who to me is attractive. she is 18 yrs of age. she told her friend that I was hot and when she was not there her [friend] told me what she felt. anyhow we went out... ...and I was hesitant to make moves on her because of the age difference. i am 22 and she just turn 18 NO actually she is 17 1/2. anyhow at my place I was hesitant about making or having sex with her and she seemed VERY frustated because I took her to a place she has never been before with out sex. during the time i was performing foreplay to her I was rock hard and i could not wait any longer and we had brief sex. i did not represent the way i really wanted to. now I feel that her expectation was not met. I also got a job working where she works. do you think that this girl I worth persuing? does working where she works make things complicated?

Hello "In Deep Shit", Whenever you're dating a girl you work with, you have to be prepared for things to get complicated. Especially younger girls, who often thrive on gossip and the next step, rumors and drama. If you're prepared for this gossip (meaning, it's not going to hurt your position in the company), then you can date this girl. After the brief episode at your house, it sounds like things are now a little bit unsure (confused) between the two of you... Whenever things are unsure between you and a woman, this is the best time to be bold... because unsure people are subconsciously looking for a leader to tell them what to do. If I were you, I'd consider calling this girl right away (don't wait any longer), and acting as if everything is still completely normal between the two of you... Then to finalize it, end the call with... "Look, about the other night, I think you're a really attractive person, the kind of person who's worth spending more time with. I wasn't sure about the sex-part, I guess that just kind of happened.... How do you feel about it?" Once you've heard her thoughts, you may have a better idea of how this is going. You mentioned being in "deep shit", and this says that you feel a little out of control of the situation... I recommend taking a brief time to eliminate all of your worries, and put yourself back in complete control. Your worries fuel your imagination, and your imagination makes you think of things that aren't really happening. This is called paranoia, and as the old saying goes, "paranoia will destroy ya'."